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You don’t have time for anything else in your life when you’re working 60+ hours a week, right? That’s why it’s important not only to maintain your social skills by going out with friends or colleagues from time to time but also to participate in activities outside of work like salsa dancing and losing the chances of finding that one true love.
It’s not that you’re unlucky in love – it’s the choices you’ve made. The fact is, there are a lot of successful people who are single and know why they’re still single: They don’t want to compromise on their careers or success. And frankly, they don’t need to! If this sounds like you, then keep reading because I’m here to tell you what you can do about it.
In this post, I’ll share some tips and tricks that you can use to get yourself back into the dating game while still maintaining your career goals – because honestly, who wants to give up their professional life for love?
Know what you seek
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The biggest obstacle to anyone’s career is not knowing what they are really interested in. but surely you have aced that, and you simply have to apply the same to your love life. First of all, you’ll need to figure out the kind of life partner you need, rather than just want. It is clear that you will know when the right person is in front of you and not miss an opportunity.
And here’s one cool way of accomplishing this. Try and get answers to the following:
- How do you feel around them?
- What are their core values and thinking process?
- What draws you towards them?
- How’s their behaviour towards you?
- How ambitious are they in their career?
- How do they treat other people related to you or their own family and friends?
- Do you have differing or similar views on love, family, or life in general?
Make a mental note about the answers you gather and every time you get attracted to anyone… see how many checkboxes they tick.
Discover the reasons
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There could be so many reasons for you being single. One could be the access to an abundance of options. For instance, if you grew up in a small village with just a bunch of potential partners of your age, it is obvious that you will choose one from that limited pool of candidates.
However, now that you have access to a lot of people, at work, through the family, neighbourhood, friends of friends, or even strangers through social media, there are endless options. However, this also means that you will be much more prudent while choosing a partner because you know that maybe the next will work out if not this one. But the result? – you are still single.
There might be more similar reasons that might be holding you back from getting into a serious relationship. Find it out, and figure out how to deal with that roadblock.
Strategise a plan
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Just like you make plans for your business or job, you will have to strategise how and where to find love. As of now, you will have the answers to all the questions from the first step. You know what you are looking for. It’s time actually to implement a few changes.
So, for example, you can look at where and how your time is currently being spent. Is going to places and doing things that will expose you to the kind of person you are looking for? Are you really open-minded about meeting someone when it does happen on your own terms?
If you notice that you like people from your gym, office, family parties, etc., and are more likely to find a potential partner from that bunch, try and spend more time there.
Also, you’ve probably heard the old saying, “It’s not what you know. It’s who you know.” Well, this is true for more than just your social life and business networking. One way to put yourself into situations where you might meet new people is simply smiling or greeting a stranger as they pass you on at or after work.
The other thing we all have at our disposal are those moments when boredom strikes- take advantage of these opportunities to chat up someone nearby instead of scrolling through Instagram mindlessly (I’m guilty too!). See if any connection sparks between you two!
Get Help!
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At the end of the day, you need to make sure that your personal life is as well-structured and supported as any other area in which you have invested yourself. Remember when working out? You had a trainer there to support, motivate and guide you through it all! In business, we also rely on advisors for guidance. Why not have a relationship coach?
You have a ton of other things on your plate. So why not give yourself the best chance possible by getting some help? If you’re looking for advice in relationships, get an advisor too- just like with business.
You never know what could happen to make it all work out when you’ve got somebody there giving their input and support.